Look in your closet, what is your overall look? Preppy, romantic, boho, chic, high fashion, comfy, trendy? Amazingly enough your closet can tell a lot about who you are as a person.
When I heard this next piece of advice I thought it sounded a little bit strange but then I realized the genius in it. Joy Thigpen is such an amazingly insightful human being that I just can’t help but keep her advice a secret. Grab a pen, no really… grab a pen – this stuff is like GOLD. We are a list of ongoing words. These words describe who we are, what our souls made up of. Your list can start with just a few, but the more you learn about yourself the more words you’ll have. Don’t use words like, “Romantic.” Romantic means a million different things to a million different people. Be more specific. Romantic can mean: spontaneous, amorous, divine, visionary, unconventional. I think you catch my drift. These words should be the words that describe your wedding.
Don’t expect this process to happen in just a few minutes or even an hour. Take a weekend or heck even a month to dive into yourself and get a good feel for what you’re going for!
Once you get a good grasp on what you’re words are the next step is finding vendors who match your words. I wish I had known this when I started my own wedding planning process. I thought I knew what I was and what I wanted. Six months into planning my event, it has turned into something extremely different from my original plan. Its turned into ME.
Like I said before, I can’t stress this process enough. Picking your vendors is a huge deal. Do some research. I signed on with a photographer that was more than qualified to do the job. She was spunky, fun, lighthearted, and super energetic. I loved her! But as my planning continued and my style changed I realized that our styles were completely different. She had a very vintage feel. Her photographs had a gorgeous blue and purple hue to them, but that just wasn’t me. The second time around, I took my time and searched for a photographer who had the aesthetic I was going for. (I am very much into film photography and the bright airiness that comes along with it.) I ended up signing on with a different photographer and lost my 50% deposit.
There are hundreds of wedding blogs out there that you can literally get lost in for hours. Many of them have vendor guides. Look up websites like Style Me Pretty, Southern Weddings, Oncewed, Weddings Unveiled and The Knot. They are chock full of real weddings that you can see the work that these companies do, not just the work they show on their websites. Don’t just pick the first vendor that you come across. Take some time to really find out who these companies are. Read their reviews, look at their social media like instagram, Facebook and twitter. Lastly, are these companies getting published?
So… go grab that cup of tea and get started!